Valentine Day Articles :=> Say I Love You Your Girlfriend
On Valentine Day
You
have decided that you have found that perfect woman. That those days of
chilling out with the guys are over, and you are ready for the next step -
telling her that you love her. But consider these before you actually do so:
What’s The Reason?
Decide if you really want to say I love you, or if you have an ulterior
motive. Be very clear about what is your reason behind deciding that she’s
the one. Are you feeling pressured? Is this just so that your parents get
off your back about finding someone? Say those words only when
you really mean them. Escalating a relationship to the love phase for
sexual, financial, or other secondary reasons only causes problems down the
road. Also, don’t get fooled into believing all the pressure is lifted once
“I love you” is on the table from both parties. Escalating a relationship to
this phase opens the door to discussing long term commitment and possibly
marriage. Be ready for the next steps if you say these words.
Is She Ready?
Find out whether or not your partner is at the same juncture. It can
turn into a complete disaster otherwise. Jim, a software engineer still
shudders when he remembers, “I was dating my colleague and felt that she
is equally interested in me. We never really talked things out and I
never thought we needed to do so. But, when I told her that I love her,
she said that she thinks of me as another friend. It really made things
awkward for us and I finally asked for a transfer to another group.’ If
your partner is using phrases like, “I am falling for you”, “I have
never felt this way”, or “I could spend forever with you” there is a
good chance your I love you will be reciprocated.
Plan it Out
The best laid plans have a way of turning awry. So, make sure that you have
hit on the best way to communicate the message based on you and your
partner’s style. If your partner loves text messages or emails, consider a
cyber-expression. If your partner is the spontaneous type, then mix the “I
love you” into a fun-filled evening.
Back-Up Action
Saying “I love you” for the first time will be more meaningful and impactful
if you back it up with a few reasons. Women love to know why you are saying
that you fell for them and love it when you do so. So, it’s not enough to
just say those magic words. According to Steve, a chartered accountant,
“After I told my girl-friend that I loved her, her first response was ‘How
do you know?’ I reminded her about our first meeting and that I had really
liked her feisty spirit that time.” So, do make sure to tell your partner
what you love about them.